Welcome to your pre-glorious Bank Holiday weekend waffle — this week’s theme is “teaching new dogs old tricks”.
It was inspired by an article I read last week about an extremely exciting “new” dating concept, a “revolutionary” new way of finding love.
Pens and notebooks at the ready.
You go to a pub…
…with your friends…
…those friends “pitch” you to a group of fellow singles and their mates…
…and then you see how that turns out...
Now, gentle reader, kindly forgive anyone who cut their dating teeth before the turn of the millennium for reading those words with a wry (possibly even wistful) smile, alongside a gentle: “Well… who’d have thunk?” ;-)
To be fair, there is a PowerPoint presentation involved, so that's the 'modern twist'. But basically, hats off to Date My Mate for founding a thriving, waitlist-attracting business around the tried-and-tested, long-out-of-patent concept of “going down the pub with a wingman or wingwoman”.
My point in saying all this is not to write some smug or condescending version of “You don't say!?" Rather, to acknowledge, with empathy, that sometimes, rebooting a tried and tested concept is exactly what is necessary. The success of Date My Mate reflects the frustration of a dating population disillusioned with the once shiny and “new-fangled” world of dating apps.
And that matters, because loneliness is not just a social issue. It is a medical one.
In lifestyle medicine, chronic loneliness and social isolation are increasingly recognised as major public health concerns. Studies have even suggested that poor social connection carries health risks comparable to smoking, obesity, and physical inactivity.
Come to think of it, much of “lifestyle medicine” could be seen as one big 're-boot' of how previous generations simply lived. Less than a hundred years ago, who didn't practice these core tenets of lifestyle medicine:
Going to sleep at a reasonably sensible hour- because it was dark, electricity was expensive, and the television eventually stopped broadcasting.
Leaving work at work - no mobiles, and those computers weren’t exactly portable.
Eating fresh, seasonal, minimally processed food - because that was largely what was available and some of it was even home-grown - out of necessity
Prioritising meaningful relationships and face-to-face interaction - because, if you wanted to socialise at all, getting people together in an actual room was how it happened.
Moving regularly - because that was how you got to work, or you moved for your job, and there was no TV to make the sofa interesting!
Nowadays, with myriad new temptations and pressures on our time, it takes a real conscious effort to implement all of those things. So it's fine, and actually pretty normal, to need a little help sometimes. That's why, as well as keeping on top of all the latest exciting developments in medical science, our doctors are ready and willing to help you plan and implement what you might call a 'back to basics' treatment plan. Sometimes, the simplest ideas are still the most effective.
And with that, we wish you a wonderful Bank holiday weekend full of fun of the 'old fashioned' variety :-)
Gemma, Tom and all at Winchester GP
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